and a new place for relationships! Over the next couple of weeks this site will be completed with updated information and continuous entries about ourselves, our relationships, and our lives. The goal is to create a place where each of us can have some fun as we reflect on the power of relationships and learn or revisit the keys to making relationships successful.

As we prepare for the new year, many of us will think about New Year’s Resolutions. The reality is that most people don’t keep their resolutions because we lack the focus and support to make change. We will use this site to help us keep our resolutions and keep ourselves focused on what matters most.

What about 2008? As I’ve asked people about thier resolutions this list usually includes losing weight, excerising more, eating better, or getting out of debt. Those are all great goals and they would make us better off if we could do each of them. But what about our relationships….what about our marriages? Do we make resolutions or goals to make these better? Let’s start this year by determining what we want for our marriage. Do we want to focus more time, to we want to plan a vacation or revisit something fun we use to do. How about having more gratitude for our spouse and learning to love him/her in a way that they want to feel loved? I think one of the best things we can do is acknowledge what works. What about setting the resolution to find time each week to point out what we are doing good, and what is working in our relationship?

Happy New Year to each of you and best of luck as you set out on this new year. I really hope 2008 will be the best one yet!

After several years in the discussion stage, Ryan and the great staff at Infogenix made this a special emotionally married Christmas for me. Thanks to all who worked on this great set up and I look forward to the new year and what it will bring. We settled for an “Ice Christmas” more than a white Christmas but it all went great.

It was several years ago that Cami and I learned the great relationship lesson that now shapes each holiday season. When we were first married we headed home to our parents for the week of Christmas. This holiday has always been at the top of each of our lists and yet each year we seemed to be grumpy and short towards each other. After several years of saying “this isn’t how we invisioned Christmas,” we took an inventory and found out we had one major flaw in our Christmas plans….there was no time for us. We enjoyed seeing family and going from one party to the next. We were always together, but never really connecting during all of this time. It was a lot of giving and not a lot of receiving when it came to how we were emotionally connecting with one another. Tough lesson to learn, but now it is a fun game to play as we try to manage all the tasks that come with the holiday fun and include connecting with one another on our list of “to do’s.”

I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and whether you were able to connect with each other before or on Christmas, I hope you spend some time in these next few days connecting with the one who matters most.