As we navigate through the holiday season we all hope to avoid disasters and hopefully find ourselves as having masters all that is required. I thought I would share a quick comparison of what the reserach John Gottman has found about the differences in couples, ones he calls masters and disasters. His research shows that the master couples (those who stay together and are happy) are more likely to prioritize their relationship, develop rituals of connection, continually update their knowledge of one another, and continually add positive energy to their relationship. He has found that disaster couples (couples who either break up or remain together but are not happy) tend to prioritize parts of their life other than their relationship, fail to add positive energy to their relationship, and fail to make repair attempts when problems do arrive.
I can think of the first key as one that may be difficult during December, but we will be happier in the end (and even during the process) if we will find small ways to prioritize time together. Don’t you think we should enjoy the season together? I believe we can and as we do, we will find that the season has much more meaning and enjoyment.

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